If you’re single, recently or seemingly since forever, do you have to change to adapt to today’s dating scene? The answer, I’m afraid to say, is complicated and depends on various factors. Let’s examine some of them.

Back in Frankfurt, Germany, my parents went out to work every day (my mother helping in my father’s business), and so my paternal grandmother spent a lot of time raising me. I credit what she taught me for much of my success, so I fully appreciate what grandparents have to offer. 

When we’re younger, our lives are so much busier, and it’s easy to let friends and even distant relatives fall by the wayside. But when your schedule isn’t quite as full anymore, that’s the perfect time to renew such relationships.

Being a grandparent is a very special relationship. Ask any one of us. I certainly have done my share of bragging. And being a great-grandparent just adds to the awe you already feel.  

But what if one of your grandchildren decides to adopt? Will it change how you feel? Should it make any difference at all? 

Handling how you feel

September is National Courtesy Month. The word comes from Old French, which described the rules that nobles had to follow when they gathered together, especially when in the presence of the king. In this country, we fought off the king of England and his tyrannical rule. That rebellious spirit continues to thrive in our society; sometimes, we forget our manners. 

When I was at New York’s Israeli Day Parade this year, I was waving both Israeli and Canadian flags. The reason for the Israeli one was obvious, but because two of my four grandchildren live in Canada, I waved that one in their honor and made sure to tell them about it. I was demonstrating openly to them that love of country is important, sometimes even if it’s not your own.

When I wrote the book Dr. Ruth’s Guide for the Alzheimer’s Caregiver, doing the research taught me a lot about this disease and the care of older people in general. One issue that may complicate treatment in older patients is denial.

Some people, tired of spending every Valentine’s Day alone, just give up on love. This can happen at any age, but it’s more common among older adults because of the imbalance in the sexes. Those who’ve given up say they’re being realistic. Why keep their hopes up if they’re only going to be met with disappointment?

There s been a lot of media attention on my life recently because of the play Becoming Dr. Ruth. Many people are learning for the first time that I was an orphan of the Holocaust, a sniper in the Israeli underground, seriously wounded, married three times, all before becoming Dr. Ruth. A question I m often posed with is, now that you re 85, are you ready to retire?

When you stop growing at only 4' 7" , as I did, you expect to face some difficulties. A lot of potential partners are going to automatically reject you because of your height. I certainly encountered some of this when I was young, though in the end my height didn t stop me from finding partners or becoming successful.

I don't tolerate people who complain. That's not to say I never complain, but there are some people who seem to do nothing but. Nothing is ever right, and to paraphrase Bob Dylan, it seems all they want to do is drag you down into the hole that they're in. Well, I'm not going down there!

About five years ago, I decided to give up skiing. It s not that I couldn t ski, but I was afraid of getting injured. I miss it, but I don t regret the decision. I also recently got rid of my car. To tell you the truth, I just didn t drive it very often, so what was the point of having it?