Tomorrow, The Move: Mom to Assisted Living

Created date

February 16th, 2009
Mom and her boyfriend

A few weeks ago, I wrote about my mom's decision to finally move into an assisted living facility at age 95. I have not written about it since as I was fearful she would change her mind. I also spoke of how she wanted to be near her friends. Well, the real reason she is moving to this particular assisted living is that her 95 year old boyfriend is there also.To me, whatever motivates my mother to make the move, is great. We've been trying to get her to consider moving to an assisted living for years. It's not the end of the rainbow; in fact, it can add life to their years. ' Socialization, eating right, medication management, all prevent any number of complications that can arise from living (at any age). ' My mother views this as the last step in her life. I understand. She is sad. I feel for her. But I am hoping she will change her mind once she sees and participates in the assisted living. Below is picture of mom and her boy...friend...2 years ago. Neither of them look the same. Two years has taken its toll.As a family, we need to continue to be as involved in your life as we are now. Some people think moving into an assisted living is being done because the family doesn't want to be involved. Not true, at least for this family. So tomorrow I am off to help Mom move. For me, the pressure is off and I can sleep at night knowing she is in a safe surrounding. Since last October, my brother has taken over as primary caregiver overseer. I was sandwiched too much and frankly could not handle everything myself. But that's a story for another time and place.