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Celebrating milestones modestly

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February 22nd, 2011

For my 80th birthday party, there was a celebration in Los Angeles and one in New York. Both were rather grand affairs, one held as part of Book Expo, the book convention, and the other held at the Museum of Jewish Heritage, where I am a member of the board of trustees. I loved every second of the celebrations and wish everyone my age could have an equally magical day. But while I ve been Dr. Ruth now for three decades, I was not famous before that and our family parties were a lot more modest back then. But here s the key they were no less fun.

Unburdening your family

There s a certain amount of pressure in many families to celebrate milestone birthdays and anniversaries, but in these difficult economic times, you don t want to turn such a celebration into a burden on your family. And the burden may not only be a financial one with both halves of most couples working outside the home these days, free time is almost in as short supply as available cash. Don t think that discussions about how to celebrate a major birthday or anniversary for you or your spouse haven t already been taking place. With the temptation to make it a surprise affair, it s likely that you haven t been a part of these conversations. Rather than let it be known that you expect a major celebration of the next big date be it for you or your spouse tell everyone that you prefer a low-key affair. Of course, no amount of downplaying the importance of a big upcoming date on your part is going to put an end to the preparation process. But at least, if you ve given your blessings to a modest celebration, no one will feel pressured into doing more if that s all that can be managed. And as long as you bring the right attitude and appreciate every second of what does take place, I promise you, there s no way you will be disappointed.