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Don’t be afraid to make changes

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April 26th, 2011

There are many myths about older people that when they become self-perpetuating can be quite damaging. For example, there s the concept that you can t teach an old dog new tricks. That s ridiculous, but people who are either afraid of change or too lazy to change will lean on a myth like that and stay stuck in one of life s ruts. Let me tell you a story of something that recently happened to me that illustrates why one should go out of one s way to break myths rather than hide behind them. I was asked to appear on The Nate Berkus Show. He is an interior designer and I didn t quite think that I was a good fit, but it turned out that I was able to answer a woman s question about her bedroom furniture and so I went. While on the air, I asked Nate if he would help me get rid of some of my clutter and he agreed. I told him he couldn t throw anything away, but once I was committed, I knew I had a lot of work ahead of me before Nate s crew could begin their transformation process. So I threw or gave away bags of what I d been holding onto as valuable possessions in the 50 years I ve lived in my apartment.

An emotional challenge

You have to know something else about me. When I was ten, I was sent to Switzerland to escape the Nazis and I lost my entire family and all my belongings. So ever since, once something becomes mine, I don t want to part with it. But I had so much stuff I couldn t invite anyone over not only was my apartment a mess, but there was almost no place to sit down! So here I was at 82 with a famous TV personality redesigning my living room and dining room which were filled with a lifetime of accumulations. I took a risk, I challenged myself, and it was one of the best decisions of my life. If you have a lot of clutter, be it in the form of possessions or habits or even people who only drain you of valuable time and energy, don t be afraid to make changes. I don t care how old you are, you can not only change, but you can use change to lift up your life in ways you never imagined possible.