Looking for love?

Created date

January 23rd, 2014

Some people, tired of spending every Valentine’s Day alone, just give up on love. This can happen at any age, but it’s more common among older adults because of the imbalance in the sexes. Those who’ve given up say they’re being realistic. Why keep their hopes up if they’re only going to be met with disappointment? I say they’re wrong and the key is to take the proper approach.

 If you’re a 75-year-old widow who knows the odds of finding an eligible man aren’t that good, but who focuses her time and energy looking for love, then yes, you run the risk of being disappointed. But what if you adjust your sights somewhat? Is it possible to be looking for love and find satisfaction at the same time? The answer is yes and let me teach you how.

Make your own opportunities

 Let’s say you’re that woman and there’s a local community college that offers classes for seniors. You look at the catalog and see a number of courses that interest you. If one of them is sewing, which you like to do, I can pretty much guarantee you that you’re not going to meet a man there. But what if you took a course on another topic that interests you, like American history. In that class, there are bound to be some men, some of whom might be single. You’d want to make sure you looked your best and that you spoke up in class in order to be noticed. You might even play social director and arrange for everyone to go for a drink after class. But if there was a potential mate, you’d have a much better shot at becoming a couple by taking that course than sitting at home. And if at the end of the semester you hadn’t met “Mr. Right,” at least you’d have the satisfaction of having taken an interesting class. 

So in 2014, no matter your age, promise yourself you will find opportunities to meet people of the opposite sex in surroundings that offer other rewards—maybe even friendship and love.