Seniors and online dating

Finding love through screens and profiles

Created date

September 27th, 2019
An older man and an older woman enjoy a movie in a movie theater. His arm is around her like they're on a date together.

Dating is a wonderful way of meeting people, developing connections, and perhaps finding a new companion.

Over four years ago, my mother met her boyfriend through the online dating site PlentyOfFish (now POF). They began messaging one another, talked on the phone, and finally decided to meet. It’s safe to say the match was successful because they are still going strong almost five years later. 

Although I’ve never experienced it, I’ve always been curious about online dating. I’ve wondered how it works, how people are matched, and what age groups utilize it the most. Then I got to thinking—do seniors partake in the online, love-matching craze?

According to eHarmony’s studies about finding love on the web, there are over 40 million users of online dating sites. Turns out, of the various sites to choose from, several are dedicated to older adults looking to spark up a romance. 

Popular dating sites for seniors

Many dating websites appeal to widowed seniors looking to enter a new romantic relationship and those looking for a steady companion to spend their time with. OurTime, SilverSingles, SeniorMatch, and Zoosk Seniors are among the most popular websites to find love, attracting more than nine million site visitors and thousands of members. 

OurTime: Online dating for adult singles 50 years and older and has been active for eight years. 

SilverSingles: Online dating for adult singles 50 years and older. 

SeniorMatch: Online dating site attracting Baby Boomers and seniors since 2001 with more than 36,000 success stories. 

Zoosk Seniors: Online dating site appealing to people in their 50s, 60s, and older. 

Safety tips for dating online

Searching for a partner on the internet can be exciting as you think about the potential matches you may find. As exhilarating as it is, it’s important to stay safe and to recognize warning signs from someone who may have an ulterior motive. According to U.S. News and World Report, there are four red flags you should be aware of when dating online:

Using poor grammar. Many times, grammar mistakes will occur when typing. But when it becomes more common, that is something to look out for, as emails from scammers tend to contain hefty spelling errors. 

Avoiding meeting in person. If you come across a prospect online who refuses to meet in person—making many excuses—they are likely not looking for something serious or a romantic connection. 

Falling in love quickly before meeting. Connecting with someone online can ignite hope for finding a loving companion. However, dropping the “L” word before meeting face to face is likely someone looking to scam. 

Asking for money. Your new “match made in heaven” who attempts to persuade you to send money is a telltale sign that they are not in it for the right reasons. It is common for scam artists to persuade their online match that if they give them money, they will be helping them live better lives and that they will pay them back. You should not send money to anyone you meet online. 

Although sometimes intimidating, dating is a great way to meet people, build connections, and see if something special is there. Don’t be afraid to ask family and friends for help when building your profile or even for assistance while browsing. Finding love is a beautiful thing, and when searching for it online, just remember to be safe, take things slow, stay positive, and don’t settle.